Instead of getting angry, if you show love and compassion to that person. So what happens [is] that it doesn’t give you any anger and another person, you don’t make him angry also. The anger begets anger. If you get angry with somebody, that other person may not retort because he is afraid of you maybe there. But in his heart, he will keep a revenge in his mind, that, “One day, I will show him why should he get angry with me!”…
For that, if you get angry with that person it’s not going to help him or help you, but if you are loving and compassionate and you explain [to] that person what the problem is and what you want to do, I tell you, it will improve. He’ll definitely improve and he’ll feel your love.
Of course, sometimes, sometimes it’s necessary to also forgive such a person. Such a person is to be forgiven, absolutely. In that it doesn’t mean that, if he has done wrongs, all kinds of wrongs, you forgive him, and he goes on still with the same. It doesn’t mean that.
‘Forgiven’ means ‘forgotten’. Such and such a person has been misbehaving, so just forget. Forget it. Completely forget it!
01.08.1999
